Ready For The Craziness Of Kids? Let's Find Out

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When you reach your mid twenties and you’ve found someone who you want to spend the rest of your life with you might start to think about children. It doesn’t matter whether you’re married or not because there’s no set order for going through life anymore. You can set your own path, and you can have children as early or as late as you like, within reason of course. The question is are you ready for the changes that having children will bring to your life. There’s no way around it, having children changes everything from your career path to your annual holidays and even your financial situation. On this post, we’re going to look at what having kids means and what you need to be prepared for. Make no mistake, there’s a lot to take into consideration here. Let’s start by thinking about your job.

Career Concerns Having Children

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To look at how your career will change after you have children, it’s important to start at the beginning. You need to think about where you were when you started the job that you’re in right now. You probably interviewed for the position and never once thought about blurting out the fact that one day you might want children. You are under no legal obligation to tell your boss this or even warn them that it could be on the agenda. Although, some bosses do like a quick heads up if you start trying, usually, you can tell them once it is official. They will then start arranging for cover while you are on maternity leave.

It’s common for women to take over a year for maternity leave and spend time with their new born baby. However, it’s important to realise that you have no legal obligation to take this much time. According to a guide to maternity and paternity leave you can be back to work after just two weeks. That’s assuming that you don’t work in a factory because in that case it’s up to four weeks minimum time away. Reading this you might that having children doesn’t have to affect your career all that much and this is true. It’s up to you how much your career changes after you start a family. But at the same time, one way or another you will have to make a sacrifice. Either you’ll spend less time with your children or you’ll spend less time in the office. The question you need to ask yourself is this. Are you okay with taking a hands-off approach to raising your new baby? Or, would you rather lower the time you spend in work? Essentially, something's going to have to give.

Don’t forget that you will also be focused on making sure that your new baby has the best quality of life possible. That’s more than just making sure you are there for them. You’ll also want to do everything you can to keep your finances healthy and make sure you can afford everything they want or need in life.

Freedom And Lifestyle

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Any new parent will tell you that you don’t have a lot of free time in the first few years. Any time that you do have to spare is spent looking after or caring for your children. This means that you won’t be heading out drinking anytime soon or even just going to the cinema. There are couples who try to get the best of both worlds using babysitters and helpers. But many mums find they quickly develop a strong, emotional and physical attachment with their little one. You no longer want to leave the house without them and this limits your social activities dramatically. You certainly won’t be booking a spontaneous trip to Thailand anytime soon because everything you do has to be arranged with your little one in mind. If they don’t fit into the plan then it’s probably not going to happen.

This is one of the reasons why you should think carefully about your life before having kids. Are you ready to give up your freedom. At least for the first few years, that is what you’ll be doing. You’ll be letting go of who you were and becoming a completely different person. Some parents handle this change well, slipping into a role like it was one that they were born to play. But others struggle to deal with the changes and come to terms with how dramatically their life has changed.

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Don’t forget that you will now also have a responsibility to yourself. You need to make sure that you are looking after your own life and not putting yourself in any danger. That might mean that it’s time to quit some of your most enduring bad habits like smoking and drinking. While many parents continue habits like this even when their child is young, it’s not the best idea. These type of lifestyle choices will dramatically lower your life expectancy and impact whether you are always there for your children.

New Responsibility

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Of course, you’re not just responsible for looking after yourself. You’re also responsible for looking after them. You need to make sure that they are safe and protected on a daily basis. You are going to be the one teaching them what they need to learn about this world and protecting them from the dangers outside the front door. It’s a huge commitment. If you’ve ever had a pet, raising a child is like multiplying that responsibility by a hundred. You might think that it gets easier as they grow. But you’ll find that you always look at them as your little girl or boy. In your eyes, your kid will always be a baby no matter how old they are. It’s an emotional feeling that you need to be prepared for.

Remember, there’s no test you can take that will determine whether you’re ready for parenthood. That’s why you need to think about it carefully. Is it time to bring a new life into your world? Or, are you still trying to figure things out and understand life through your own eyes.

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